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And how was YOUR Valentine's Day?

I went out on a blind date with a guy I met on Craigslist.


He'd booked the reservation ages ago and didn't have anybody by that time, so he put up an ad on Craigslist. I answered. He liked my response, so I went to Dante's and had fondue and a long and rambly conversation. He talked about his 20/20/60 theory; I told him about Lake and the Hearse of Many Colors. We talked about Atlanta in 1996, in the throes of the Olympic Games. I ranted about why Scientology sucks and he was startled by some of the things I told him.

I kissed him chastely after he walked me to my car and left it at that. He seemed to want more; I couldn't give it to him.

I did have a wonderful time, but one night was enough. Pushing it beyond that point would serve no purpose.

Going to bed now.

Today I took pleasure in a good meal with intense conversation.

Today I learned what a meal at Dante's is like.


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Feb. 15th, 2008 03:27 pm (UTC)
Damn. I gotta start looking for dates on Craig's List. Do you find them on the platonic section?
Feb. 15th, 2008 10:46 pm (UTC)
I found his ad in Men Seeking Women.

I seriously don't recommend Craiglist for dating. Put it this way--it's free and you get what you pay for. I just was poking through for a lark (and being reminded why looking on Craigslist is such a bad idea!) when I saw his ad and though, oh, what the heck.
Feb. 19th, 2008 06:07 am (UTC)
As the owner of THE_FORUM likes to say, when any two people from the Internet meet, one is an axe murderer. If that one is not you, you take your chances.

Of course, he also thinks that if you ever played a MUD, you're a guy. Because [a] there are no women on the Internet and [b] MUDs are d00d things.

Too bad I used to write content for one, ages ago.

But I digress.

I have never, and I do mean never, heard of Internet Love* going well. This is not to say it can't. But the EASE involved with posting a "Gimme this, Don't Want That" list appeals to people who are not willing to make any real effort to find a mate. Actually brushing the Cheet-Os off your lap and going outside helps a lot more.

You're the wrong audience for online romance stuff. You actually have a life. You probably meet more people in a week than those folks using Internet Dating meet in a year. And your friends have friends, who have friends.

Using your friend's friends as yentas would be more likely to work out well than trusting you won't get some neckbeard misogynist who thinks it's cool to order a date offline.

* I have, however, heard of Internet Friendships working out so well, even after the friends met, that it turned into Love. But even then, hello, happened OFFLINE.

P.S. Sorry for infecting you with my latest cause and fervor for same. But appreciate that you are equally pissed off and willing to try and work for change. That's awesome.
(If I am lucky, I may even have Spring Break in time for 3/15. Not sue. If so, I might be the only person heading OUT of town on St. Patrick's Day weekend, rather than IN!)
Feb. 19th, 2008 11:43 am (UTC)
Rob, my first love, met his wife on CompuServe.

They're still married, some ten plus years later, and expecting their second child.

wych met her new love on Match.com, I think it was, and she's been positively sickening (but, you know, in a good way.)

It can happen.

The point is, when you meet in person, it's like a blind date. You know a lot ABOUT this person, but you're not going to really know if it's going to work until you meet for real

Sometimes blind dates are disasters, but once in a while they're the beginnings of beautiful relationships.
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